Living with an alcoholic that has a family is so hard to deal with especially when you have children involved, and you're a christian. That within itself is a struggle for the spouse and the entire household. Financially it's a burden when the alcoholic drinks everyday. The children becomes so used to the behavior pattern they start acting out as a result of the disfunctional things going on in the household. Children turn into teenager and the conflict with them being a teenager and living with an alcoholic parent(s) is a lot to deal with as a young teenager. You try to put on happy face when family and friends are around. But in reality people see through your unhappiness and don't really offer any good sound advice. I think people in general think that issue is something for a couple to work out on their on and not try to get involved because maybe they don't really have any good sound advice. The christian in me has to stay prayed up, fast, and keep believing God for the ultimate results....Total deliverance and being healed from such a sick disease that could eventually lead to death. A lot of the pain and depression that a person masquerade and puts on a front can pretty much be traced back to one's childhood. The secrets, the lies, the abuse, abandonment and being in denial all has a lot to do with getting sober and getting help. The whole family basically needs to deal with the recovery process as well. Leaving is another option for some who are financially stable, but for others it may not be feasible.  Alcoholism is a sick disease that affects the whole family. You feel alone and abandoned as well. Financially the Dui's over the years, losing employment, takes a toll on everyone, especially if the only one working in the household is the alcoholic. At the end of the day, the only person who can get through to an alcoholic’s denial, is the alcoholic themself. On the other hand, if the addict has been tormented by addiction for awhile, if they’ve lost loved ones, friends, their job – perhaps they’re close to making a major change. A formal intervention might be something they need. You can seek the assistance of a professional interventionist to assist in the process.